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Co-regulation and Daily Learning – I

In this blog post, I want to clarify how to use the four LIFE pillars to think about your choices.

LIFESMART Tip: Enrich parent-child interactions (F: Family interactions) to set the stage for daily Learning (L).

Last week, I introduced three key techniques:

1) Regulation-Challenge-Reorganization (RCR),

2) Just Noticeable Differences (JNDS).

3) four patterns of interaction,

When a parent practices the three techniques consistently, parent-child interactions (F: Family interactions) improve setting the stage for daily Learning (L).

In this article, I will discuss the first technique, RCR practice by parents and daily Learning. I will also introduce the notion of co-regulation and explain how RCR is a key tool for practicing co-regulation.

Choosing your Path

If you are a parent of a young child and are wondering where to begin, I invite you to consider the idea of co-regulation. Co-regulation is the foundation of learning. Yet, it does not seem to be identified as a good starting point for parents of neurodivergent children! We were fortunate to discover co-regulation through Relationship Development Intervention (RDI).

The Journey Begins

Initially, we focused on L (Learning daily) and F (Family interactions).

In the early stages, Relationship Development Intervention (RDI) emphasizes the interplay of these two elements. Under typical development, parent-child interactions are the foundation for learning. At this stage, we did not address I (Interests) or E (Engagement with community) explicitly.

The key point is that while all LIFE components are equally important, we may focus more on different elements at different times.

The focus of RDI was the guided participation relationship between the parent and child. Restore the Family interactions (F) to build the foundations of guided participation which is the base for Learning daily (L).

The focus of Family interactions in the early years is developing parent and child interactions. Neurotypical development also begins here. Dr. Gutstein used to say that neurotypical children have thousands of hours or co-regulation practice with parents before they start peer interactions. If co-regulation with parent is disrupted, that needs to be restored before trying to get peer interactions.

Co-regulation and Daily Learning

Read about co-regulation here.

According to this article, “The supportive process between caring adults and children, youth or young adults that fosters self-regulation development is called “co-regulation.”

Role of parents/caregivers

  • Provide a warm, responsive relationship
    • displaying care and affection;
    • recognize and respond to cues that signal needs and wants
    • provide caring support in times of stress
  • Create an environment that is physically and emotionally safe for children, youth, and young adults to
    explore and learn at their level of development .
    • Develop consistent, predictable routines and expectations
    • Provide clear goals for behavior regulation
    • Provide well-defined logical consequences for negative behaviors.
  • Teach self-regulation skills

How does Regulation, Challenge, Reorganization (RCR) enhance co-regulation and daily learning?

The four patterns of activities discussed below are based on RCR (Regulation, Challenge, Reorganization) is one of the most valuable parenting concepts that I learned from Relationship Development Intervention (RDI). The parent sets up a pattern of interaction with competent roles for parent and child. The key is to set up a predictable pattern the child can recognize so that the child is regulated in the activity. Once the child is familiar with the pattern, introduce variations or challenges. Add the variations gradually to enable the child to accept the variations and reorganize the initial pattern of interaction. Practice the basic pattern for many days before introducing variations. This article describes four simple patterns of interactions that parents can use to implement RCR in daily life activities.

RCR reduces stress and enhances engagement by providing predictability, incremental development, and consistency.

RCR is a technique for creating consistent, predictable interactions while introducing variations and novelty. RCR is a technique for practicing co-regulation.

Learn more about RDI here.

Watch the video below for a description of how RDI changed our path:

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LIFESMART Tools: Continuous Explorations

Tip of the Week: Learn the Three Techniques of Continuous Explorations

This post discusses three key techniques of continuous exploration four patterns of interaction, Regulation-Challenge-Reorganization (RCR), and Just Noticeable Differences (JNDS).

Continuous explorations are activities and experiences that are not driven by goals and plans. As shown in the LIFESMART tetrahedron above, continuous explorations are one of the three core LIFESMART tools.

Parents and children spend time together doing varied activities. Parents do not focus on skill development. Rather, the focus is on sharing experiences and emotions. Movement, nonverbal communications, and declarative language (commenting/ narrating) are the tools of continuous explorations.

We chose the term continuous explorations to convey the idea of small, ongoing explorations that build on what the parent and child know how to do. By using familiar skills, these explorations minimize stress and increase engagement. Daily explorations with small changes increase the ease with which the parent and child participate in shared experiences. Continuous explorations gradually reinforce and evolve existing skills. Babies and young children explorations routinely engage in such small explorations. For example, a baby who is learning to crawl or grasp objects will repeatedly use these emerging skills in exploration.

Implementing continuous explorations and experience sharing with autistic children can be challenging. Autistic children have communication challenges and experience sharing between parent and child is often disrupted. In addition, autistic children may seek structure and predictability and resist change and novelty. A key goal of continuous exploration is to gradually increase the child’s capacity for handling novelty and change. Experience-sharing communication, handling novelty and change, and nonverbal communications, and declarative language are elements that I learned to include through my Relationship Development Intervention (RDI) experience. I coined the term continuous exploration because I wanted a term to distinguish experiences that did not have a specific agenda and were not skills-focused. In other words, parents are not trying to teach specific skills and expecting certain levels of performance during continuous exploration.

Four Patterns of Interactions

The four simple patterns of interaction discussed in this article provide a starting point for implementing continuous exploration.

Read the article Building the Foundation and Pillars for Success in Academics by Kamini Lakhani here. According to Kamini Lakhani, parents can work on their child’s emotional regulation by working on these 4 patterns of interactions.

a. Assembly line (sender receiver pattern)

b. Reciprocal (the parent and child take turns to repeat the same role)

c. Simultaneous (the parent and child have the same role that they perform it together at the same time)

d. Contingent (the parent and child have different roles and their roles are dependent on the other)

Regulation, Challenge, Reorganization

The four patterns of activities discussed below are based on RCR (Regulation, Challenge, Reorganization) is one of the most valuable parenting concepts that I learned from Relationship Development Intervention (RDI). The parent sets up a pattern of interaction with competent roles for parent and child. The key is to set up a predictable pattern the child can recognize so that the child is regulated in the activity. Once the child is familiar with the pattern, introduce variations or challenges. Add the variations gradually to enable the child to accept the variations and reorganize the initial pattern of interaction. Practice the basic pattern for many days before introducing variations. This article describes four simple patterns of interactions that parents can use to implement RCR in daily life activities.

2. Watch a video of the sender/ receiver pattern of interactions and get started with your 100-day project!

3. Listen to the explanation of Just Noticeable Differences (JND) on Dr. Sheely’s podcast:

Key Point from Podcast

According to Dr. Sheely, “competence is built off of a series of these just noticeable differences that are then punctuated with the challenge, and the challenge is something that is not just noticeable difference, but something that challenges you to use your mind, because you don’t know what to do.

My thoughts

JNDs prepare you for dealing with challenges. RCR with JNDs is a technique for systematic training for engaging variability and builds capacity for handling larger changes over time. Since autistic children often resist change (see Dr. Gutstein’s podcast on Variability), RCR and JND are tools for parents to integrate predictability and variability in experiences. JND is a way to introduce novelty with low stress.

After diagnosis, parents are focused on challenges such as speech delays, sensori-motor issues etc. RDI changed our trajectory. We started focusing on variability and dynamic thinking as the foundation. Integrating predictability and variation in experiences sets the stage for practicing communication.

RCR Examples

  • After shopping, put things from bags into cupboards and/or the refrigerator. The child picks up and hands the item and the parent puts it away.
  • Child picks up and gives an item of clothing to the parent. Parent hangs it up.
  • Parent and child walk together. Initially, follow the same route at the same time of day. Slowly, introduce variations. The parent stops suddenly. The parent starts walking forward or backward. The child notices these variations and responds to them. For example, when the parent stops, the child stops.
  • The Parent and child roll a ball together. Each person has their own ball.
  • The parent and child paint on a large sheet of paper. Each person chooses one color and paints somewhere on the paper.
  • Practice the patterns of interactions with games like crocodile dentist and Twister.

When the child is doing well in the interaction, the parent makes little variations to the pattern to make it slightly more unpredictable, but not overwhelming.

When I first learned about RCR, I found it useful but did not realize that we had discovered an important tool for life. As I have learned more about managing stress and creating the conditions for learning with ease, I have started seeing RCR as one of the most important tools in parenting neurodiverse children. Hence, I chose this topic as the first weekly topic.

There are many lessons to learn from RDI. I view the three key techniques of continuous exploration four patterns of interaction, Regulation-Challenge-Reorganization (RCR), and Just Noticeable Differences (JNDS) as the most valuable lessons from RDI that I continue to use even today. Learn more about RDI here.

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