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How not to be typically a Neurotypical


Neurodivergent individuals, which include people with conditions such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and others, often experience difficulties in social interactions and sensory processing. Interacting with neurodivergent individuals can be challenging for neurotypicals, as they may not be familiar with the specific needs and preferences of these individuals. Hence, it is important for neurotypicals to be mindful of their behavior and interactions when in the presence of neurodivergent individuals. However, with a few basic rules and etiquette, neurotypicals can make the interaction more comfortable and enjoyable for both parties.

In this blog, we will discuss some basic rules and etiquette to be followed in social settings and public spaces to make the experience comfortable for everyone.



●Respect personal space and boundaries– Neurodivergent individuals generally have sensory processing differences that make them sensitive to touch or sound, different sensory needs and preferences when it comes to personal space. Some may prefer more space while others may not mind being in close proximity to others. It is important to be respectful of personal space and to ask before touching or hugging someone. It is important to respect their personal space and boundaries and avoid invading their personal space. For example, don’t play loud music in their vicinity without checking if it’s okay.

●Be clear, concise and direct in your communication– Neurodivergent individuals may have difficulties with non-verbal communication or social cues. Therefore, it’s important to be clear, concise and direct in communication, using simple language and avoiding figurative language or sarcasm. They may also take things literally, so it’s important to avoid using ambiguous or metaphorical expressions. Avoid jokes, bodyshaming and sarcasm.


●Avoid sensory overload– Many neurodivergents have sensory sensitivities and can be sensitive to stimuli and can become overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights, or strong smells. If you’re in a public space like a mall or playground, be mindful of these sensitivities and avoid activities or behaviors that could cause sensory overload. It is important to avoid creating sensory overload for anyone. This can include speaking softly, turning down music or other noisy devices, and avoiding sudden unexpected movements or plans.


●Be patient and understanding– Neurodivergent individuals may have difficulties with social interactions, such as maintaining eye contact or engaging in small talks. It’s important to be patient and understanding, and not to judge them based on these difficulties. Allow them time to process information and respond in their own way, and avoid making assumptions about their intentions or emotions. They may communicate or interact differently than neurotypicals. They may have difficulty with basic communication. It is really very important to be empathetic and compassionate about this.


●Provide clear instructions and structure– Neurodivergent individuals found to have difficulties with executive function, such as planning or organizing. So, by providing clear instructions and structure one can really help them feel more comfortable and confident in social situations. For example, if you’re hosting a party, provide everyone a clear schedule of events and activities, or if you’re traveling with them, provide itenary with detailed and clear instructions on how to navigate the airport or the flight.

●Avoid judgements, stereotypes and assumptions– Neurodivergents are individuals like others, and it’s important to avoid stereotypes and assumptions about them based on their diagnosis or condition. Don’t assume that they all have the same abilities or less or limitations, and avoid making generalizations or stereotypes about their behavior or preferences. They actually face lot of struggles already and experience discrimination and stereotyping based on their diagnosis and challenges. So, It’s quite important to be respectful and treat them with respect and dignity including them.

●Avoid bullying and teasing– Neurodivergent individuals may be more vulnerable to bullying and teasing due to their differences and challenges. Hence, it’s very important for us to be more responsible and kind to them. One should avoid making fun or teasing them based on their condition.

●Seek education and understanding– It is important to seek education and understanding about neurodivergent conditions and to be open to learning about the experiences of others. This can help to foster empathy and understanding and to create a more inclusive and accepting society.

●Be inclusive– Neurodivergent individuals generally have difficulty socializing and making friends. It is important to be inclusive and to make an effort to include them in social activities, get togethers, photo ops and conversations.

Interacting with neurodivergent individuals can be a rewarding and positive experience for both parties if approached with respect, patience, and understanding. By following the above basic rules and etiquette, each and everyone can create an inclusive and welcoming environment for all of us.

Author Shilpi Mayank Awasthi
Founder SpecialSaathi

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Landscape of Workplaces: The Work Atmosphere

“The Puzzle Piece Clicked”: Confessions of a Late-Blooming Autist

Chapter – 4 Office Days

Ah, the work atmosphere – that ever-present force shaping our daily lives. For allistic individuals, it can be a spectrum of experiences, from the stimulating bustle of  offices to the quiet focus of individual workstations and cubicles. But for someone on the autism spectrum, navigating the challenges which come alongwith their workplace can be its own unique experience, with both opportunities and hurdles to consider.


For me, entering the post-college job space was like stepping into a kaleidoscope of sensory overload and social complexities. The open office plan, cool though it might be, felt like a cacophony of ringing phones, overinterfering colleagues. My desk, nestled amidst the throng, was not less than a battleground against distractions, my focus constantly under siege. Meetings, with their unpredictable nature and unspoken social cues, were particularly draining. Reading facial expressions, deciphering subtext, and navigating office politics – these were skills I’d never truly mastered, and the pressure to conform often left me feeling exhausted and out of place.

However, it wasn’t all doom and gloom. Some aspects of the work environment actually played to my strengths. The structured nature of certain tasks, the meticulous attention to detail required, and the opportunity to delve deep into specific projects resonated with my autistic mind. Working independently, with clear instructions and defined goals, allowed me to excel. I found solace in the predictability of routines, the comfort of repetitive tasks, and the satisfaction of a job well done.
Thankfully, the landscape of workplaces is slowly evolving, becoming more accommodating and inclusive of neurodiversity. Forward-thinking companies are recognizing the unique talents and skills that individuals on the spectrum bring to the table.

Some of the accommodations that made a world of difference for me include:


1. Flexible work arrangements: The ability to work remotely or adjust my schedule helped me manage sensory overload and maintain focus.
2. Quiet spaces: Having access to a designated quiet room or noise-canceling headphones provided much-needed sanctuaries when the office buzz became overwhelming.
3. Clear communication: Direct and concise instructions, written materials, and visual aids helped me process information effectively and avoid misunderstandings.
4. Empathy and understanding: Working with colleagues and managers who were open to learning about autism and willing to make adjustments fostered a supportive and inclusive environment.


While challenges remain, there’s a growing awareness of the need for neurodiversity in the workplace. Companies are realizing that by embracing individual differences and fostering inclusive environments, they tap into a wider pool of talent and unlock the full potential of their employees.


For me, the ideal work atmosphere is one that celebrates my unique strengths while providing the supports I need to thrive. It’s a space where I can be myself, contribute meaningfully, and feel valued for the skills and perspectives I bring to the table.

As the conversation about neurodiversity continues, I hope we can create workplaces that are not just accepting, but actively welcoming of autistic individuals, allowing us to shine in our own unique ways. After all, it’s important to note that every autistic individual experiences the work environment differently. There is no one-size-fits-all solution, and the accommodations that work for me might not be the same for others.

Author Akaash Jain (late-diagnosed Autist)
Edited by-Shilpi Mayank Awasthi

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Neurodiversity in the Asian Community


Neurodiversity in the Asian Community: Embracing Differences for a Stronger Future


Across the diverse tapestry of Asian cultures, the experiences of individuals with neurodivergent conditions like Autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and others, present unique challenges and opportunities. Understanding these nuances is crucial in building a more inclusive and supportive community.


Navigating Cultural Crossroads
Asian cultures often emphasize collectivism, academic achievement, and social conformity. This can clash with the needs and strengths of neurodivergent individuals, who may:

●Think and learn differently, requiring alternative educational approaches.
●Struggle with social interactions and communication, leading to isolation.
●Experience sensory overload or sensitivity, making everyday situations overwhelming.

Challenges and Hurdles
1.Stigma and Misunderstanding: Mental health awareness lags behind in many Asian communities, leading to stigma and discrimination against neurodivergent individuals. Their experiences may be seen as weakness, laziness, or lack of discipline.
2.Limited Access to Support: Diagnostic services and therapeutic support are often scarce or culturally insensitive, leaving families struggling to understand and navigate neurodiversity.
3.Pressure to Conform: The emphasis on academic and social achievement can place immense pressure on neurodivergent individuals to “mask” their differences, leading to anxiety, depression, and burnout.


Building Bridges of Understanding
1.Open Communication: Starting conversations about neurodiversity within families and communities is key to dispelling myths and fostering empathy. Sharing personal stories and experiences can break down stigma and build bridges of understanding.
2.Culturally Sensitive Support: Developing culturally relevant resources and support systems tailored to the needs of different Asian communities is crucial. This includes providing information, guidance, and access to culturally competent mental health professionals.
3.Celebrating Neurodiversity: Recognizing and appreciating the unique strengths and perspectives of neurodivergent individuals enriches the entire community. Highlighting their contributions and creating inclusive spaces for them to thrive is essential.


Collective Action for a Brighter Future
By acknowledging the challenges, raising awareness, and fostering acceptance, we can build a more inclusive and supportive community for neurodivergent individuals within the Asian diaspora. This journey requires collective action from individuals, families, community organizations, and policymakers. Remember, embracing neurodiversity is not just about supporting individuals; it’s about tapping into the full potential of our diverse communities and creating a richer, more vibrant future for all.

Join us for Republic day special episode of “Bridging the Neurodivide” podcast featuring Ms.Monika Mishra Founder Defic portal and Special Educator Lucknow, India and Dr.Anila Khan Clinical Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Speech language Pathologist, Autism Expert and mental health, Childhood trauma advocate.


Additional Resources:
Asian Mental Health Collective: https://www.asianmhc.org/
National Autistic Society of Malaysia: https://www.nasom.org.my/
The Jed Foundation: https://jedfoundation.org/
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): https://www.nami.org/Home


Let’s strive to create a world where neurodiversity is not just accepted, but celebrated, allowing all individuals, regardless of their background or neurotype, to flourish and contribute their unique gifts to the world.

Author Shilpi Mayank Awasthi

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Bridging the Neurodivide: Thinking with Circles

A Production of Ananth’s Fold, Color, Talk

Why think about complex topics such as neurodiversity, neurodivergent individuals, inclusion, and bridging the neurodivide using only words? Building visual and tactile models clarifies ideas and helps us think and talk about our ideas. Have fun exploring ideas in different ways with visual and tactile tools.

I have been folding circles since 2007. I use Wholemovement, an approach developed by Bradford Hansen-Smith. I used to fold circles to create tetrahedrons, octahedrons, icosahedrons, Vector-Equilibrium Sphere, and many other interesting structures. After folding, I enjoyed coloring it. While some children like my cousin liked to fold many circles in a day, I folded one or two and spent time coloring.

Since I kept folding and coloring, my mother started organizing ideas on the circle creations. We used these foldables to think about different topics and to talk about our ideas.

See the video below and try folding!

https://youtu.be/FJ4VIetBbYg?si=pK7FDI93Ieogjawq


I enjoyed folding and coloring because
• It was relaxing
• I enjoy coloring
• I could learn better with visual and tactile tools

I did an entrepreneurship summer camp in 2014. I created the concept and logo for Fold, Color, Talk.

Bridging the Neurodivide

When my mother started preparing for her presentation on Bridging the Neurodivide, she asked me to fold a tetrahedron and then an icosahedon using four colors.

Tetrahedron

The first fold divides the circle into two parts. We used one side neurotypicals (NT) and another half to represent neurodivergent (ND). Once folded into a tetrahedron, the bottom two triangles represent NTs and NDs having experiences in environments that work best for them. As they learn in their own ways, different people (learners, parents, teachers, etc.) discover ways to bridge the neurodivide (triangle at the center). These discoveries enable them to bring NDs and NTs together in different environments.

Icosahedron

I used four tetrahedrons to create an icosahedron. The icosahedron can help us visualize the process of bridging the neurodivide more clearly.

Sustaining (green)

NDs and NTs have experiences in environments that work for them.

Initiating (yellow)

We initiate activities to bring these learners together.

Adapting (orange)

Students, teachers, parents and others adjust to changes

Extending (blue)

New activities and ways of bridging the neurodivide are discovered and implemented.

We have started tracking our progress in bridging the neuro divide using this Icosahedron.
Watch the video below to see how we are using it.

https://youtu.be/MBgGNUyc_oA?si=3tMUv05ISY9kR9wN


About Ananth
Ananth Raghunandan is a student ambassador for (Ramana Sunritya Aalaya) RASA and Theater Arts for Holistic Development (TAHD). Ananth Raghunandan is doing a diploma in Bharatanatyam.

He enjoys folding circles and created Fold, Color, Talk with his mother Dr. Dasaratha Rama during an entrepreneurship camp.

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How My Son’s Autism Showed Me Another Side of Neurodiversity

How My Son’s Autism Showed Me Another Side of Neurodiversity: Embracing Life’s Full Circle


Life often has a way of surprising us with unexpected challenges and revelations, leading us on unexpected journeys that transform our perspectives and challenge our perceptions. For me, this revelation, this transformative journey began with my son’s diagnosis of autism at a tender age of less than two years. At first, the news felt like a whirlwind, turning the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of my life upside down. The journey that followed, filled with early interventions, assessments, and meeting new people, led me to discover an integral part of myself that I had long been unaware of – my own neurodiversity. As time passed, I began to connect the dots and see the bigger picture, realizing that embracing neurodiversity would open up a world of understanding, compassion, and self-discovery.

Today, as I reflect on the path I’ve walked, I see how my son’s autism has beautifully completed the full circle of my life. In this blog, I want to share my personal journey of embracing neurodiversity through the lens of my son’s autism, and how it has transformed my perspective on life and self-discovery.



The Whirlwind of a Diagnosis


The day my son was diagnosed with autism marked a pivotal moment in my life. Yuvaan’s autism diagnosis was a turning point in our lives. The news filled us with a mix of emotions – from concern and fear to determination and hope. Initially, the news left me feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and uncertain about what the future held. I was grappling with emotions of confusion, denial and guilt. Yet, in the midst of this chaos, I knew I had to be strong for my son and embrace the journey ahead.


Yuvaan’s Early intervention was initiated, after we sought multiple opinions from experts and doctors to ensure we were providing the best possible support for Yuvaan’s development. Throughout his assessment process, I couldn’t help but notice most of those traits in myself that resonated with me and what I was learning about autism. However, at the time, my focus was entirely on my son’s well-being, and I put aside any thoughts about myself.



The Shift in Perspective



As Yuvaan’s early intervention continued, I found myself increasingly immersed in a world of autism and neurodiversity. I attended seminars, parent empowerment programs, and various trainings to better understand and support my son’s needs. As I delved into understanding autism and connecting with other parents in similar situations, I started to see neurodiversity in a whole new light. I realized that society often perceives neurodivergent individuals as “different,” but embracing neurodiversity meant celebrating the unique strengths and perspectives that come with it. My son’s autism wasn’t a limitation; it was a beautiful aspect of his identity that shaped the way he experienced the world. The more I learned, the more I started to recognize the extreme similarities between Yuvaan’s experiences and my own. I began to reflect on my past interactions with others and the challenges I had faced in social settings. The puzzle pieces started to fit together, and I realized that I, too, might be neurodivergent.



Connecting the Dots of My Past: Facing the Truth


As I became more accepting of my son’s autism, I started to draw parallels between his experiences and my own journey through life. I recalled moments from my childhood and adolescence where I struggled with every social situation, sensory differences, experiences, or communication styles. Looking back, I could see how my own neurodivergent traits had been present all along but were never acknowledged or understood. Admitting the possibility of my neurodiversity was not an easy task. It meant confronting years of self-doubt, anxiety, and misunderstanding. Seeking answers, I took online assessments and started reading extensively about different neurodivergent conditions. Eventually, I gathered the courage to undergo a formal assessment at a reputable institute. The results revealed what I had suspected deep down – I was severely autistic and also had other co-occurring mental health conditions.



Discovering My Neurodiversity: A New Perspective



While the interactions and the whole assessment process during my own diagnosis initially felt overwhelming, it eventually brought clarity and a profound sense of self-discovery. My journey with Yuvaan had opened my eyes to the world of neurodiversity, and in that process, I had found myself. Accepting my neurodivergent identity was liberating; it allowed me to make sense of my past struggles and embrace my unique way of thinking and processing the world.

Understanding my own neurodiversity not only empowered me but also transformed the way I saw the world. I realized that neurodiversity is not a flaw to be corrected but a valuable aspect of the human experience. Every individual, neurotypical or neurodivergent, has something unique to offer to society. It’s essential to create an inclusive world that celebrates and accommodates the diverse ways our brains work.



The Ripple Effect: Parenting Yuvaan and Embracing Neurodiversity



With my understanding of neurodiversity, my approach to parenting Yuvaan has taken a more informed and compassionate turn over the period of time. In last 4 years, I have recognized the importance of celebrating his strengths and providing him with the support he needs, rather than focusing on “fixing” his challenges. Our home became a safe space where Yuvaan could thrive and be himself, free from judgment. As I continued to grow and embrace neurodiversity, I noticed how it positively impacted not only my relationship with my son but also with others in my life. I became an advocate for neurodivergent individuals, spreading awareness, and fostering an inclusive environment through SpecialSaathi. By sharing our journey, I hoped to inspire others to celebrate their own neurodivergent traits or those of their loved ones.



Finding Peace and Self-Discovery, Reinventing Myself


As I write this blog on 21st July on his birthday, I believe Yuvaan came into my life for a purpose – to help me find, discover, and reinvent myself. Through my son’s autism, I have learned not only about him but also about myself. Embracing neurodiversity has given me the opportunity to connect with a diverse community, advocate for acceptance and inclusion, and discover new passions and talents. With this newfound understanding, I began to find peace within myself. The pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of my life were slowly coming together, and I no longer felt like an outsider in my own story. Embracing neurodiversity allowed me to accept and celebrate the uniqueness of both my son and myself. It was liberating to finally comprehend the “why” behind my life’s challenges and strengths.

Understanding Life’s a full circle: The Journey of Self-Discovery


Yuvaan’s autism diagnosis was a profound turning point in my life, leading me to a journey of self-discovery and acceptance. It opened my eyes to another side of neurodiversity, and in doing so, life came full circle for me. Embracing my own neurodiversity has been an eye-opening experience that has allowed me to better understand and support my son. Through this journey, I gained a deeper understanding of myself, my son, and the intricacies of human experiences. The journey from “fear to denial”, from “confusion to acceptance”, from “spreading awareness to advocating” and now actually “fighting for the rights of persons with disabilities” was transformative, and I am grateful for the opportunity to celebrate the uniqueness of PWDs more specifically neurodivergent individuals. I have come to appreciate the beauty of neurodiversity and its vital role in shaping our world.

Furthermore, Yuvaan’s neurodivergence has not only taught me patience, resilience, and unconditional love but has also brought a new purpose and meaning to my life. I look forward to continuing this journey of growth, acceptance, and advocacy for neurodiversity, both for myself and my wonderful son, Yuvaan. The journey of acceptance and understanding brought me to the realization that my son’s autism was the missing piece of my life’s puzzle. It was the final connection that completed the full circle, and I saw the beauty in how life had guided me to this point. The challenges, the joys, the tears, and the laughter had all played their part in shaping the person I had become.

As I continue to support my son and advocate for neurodiversity, I hope others can find inspiration in our life’s story. Our life’s jigsaw puzzle may seem chaotic and uncertain at times, but every piece has its place, and each connection brings us closer to understanding the how, why, and what of our lives. Embrace differences, accept neurodiversity, celebrate uniqueness, and witness how the upside-down pieces come together to form a beautiful picture of acceptance and love.

Author Shilpi Mayank Awasthi
(Actually Autistic)
Founder SpecialSaathi
Superproud Mom of Awesome Yuvaan