How mothers/caregivers can take out time for self-care activities?

Continuing further from my previous 2 blogs on importance of Self-Care and Me-Time …

Motherhood is a beautiful journey filled with love, joy, and countless responsibilities. However, when you are a mother or caregiver of a child with special needs, the challenges can be even more demanding. There is no doubt, motherhood and caregiving of a child with special needs are immensely rewarding roles, but they can also be incredibly demanding and overwhelming at the same time. In the midst of nurturing and caring for others, it’s essential for mothers and caregivers to prioritize self-care and carve out meaningful me-time activities. As balancing the needs of your child while neglecting your own well-being can lead to physical and emotional exhaustion and burnouts. Me-time allows you to recharge, rejuvenate, and reconnect with yourself, enhancing your overall well-being. That’s why incorporating self-care and me-time into your daily routine becomes crucial.

In my today’s blog of the self-care series, we will explore the significance of self-care and me-time for mothers and caregivers of children with special needs, and I will also share some practical tips on how to take out some time and make it a non- negotiable priority in your life (with some examples).

First thing first, Why Me-Time Matters, a recap – So here it goes..

Understand the Importance of Self-Care: As I always emphasize that “Self-care is not a luxury; it’s a necessity”. As a mother and as a caregiver, your own well-being directly impacts your ability to provide the best care for your child. Taking care of yourself allows you to recharge, reduce stress, prevents burnout, prevents meltdown, maintain a positive mindset.

Self-care and well-being: Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s a crucial component of being an effective caregiver. Me-time enables you to nurture your physical, mental, and emotional well-being, leading to increased resilience, reduced stress, and improved overall health.

Personal growth: Me-time activities provide opportunities for personal growth and self-reflection. They allow you to explore your passions, interests, and goals outside of your caregiving role. Engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment can boost self-esteem and enhance your sense of identity beyond being a mother or caregiver.

Recharging your energy: Constantly attending to the needs of others can be draining. Me-time allows you to replenish your energy levels and prevent burnout. By taking regular breaks, you can maintain a sustainable caregiving routine and be fully present and engaged when caring for your loved ones.

Setting a positive example: Demonstrating the importance of self-care through me-time activities sets a powerful example for your children or those you care for. Teaching them to prioritize their own well-being fosters a healthy mindset and encourages them to develop self-care habits in their own lives.

Embrace the Power of Me-Time: Me-time refers to setting aside dedicated time for yourself, away from your caregiving responsibilities. It provides an opportunity to focus on your own needs, hobbies and interests, and personal growth. Me-time can help reduce burnout, increase your resilience, and improve your overall quality of life.

How to make Self-Care a Priority?

It can be really challenging to find time for yourself, but by making self-care a priority, you can create a healthier and more balanced life.

Tailor Me-Time to Your Needs: Designing your me-time activities is a personal process. Consider these suggestions to create a meaningful me-time routine. Here are some practical tips to incorporate self-care into your daily routine:

1. Start with Small Steps: As I always say, “One step at a time”; begin by allocating short periods of time for self-care activities. Even 5- 10 minutes a day can make a difference. Gradually increase the time as you establish a routine. “Don’t aim for MOON on the very first day”- this is the rule which you should swear by and fix it in your mind for almost everything. Incorporating self-care doesn’t mean completely overhauling your routine. Begin with small, manageable steps each day for yourself. Gradually increase the time and activities dedicated to self-care.

2. Schedule Regular Time: Set aside specific time slots in your calendar/planner each day dedicated solely to yourself. Treat these slots as non-negotiable, just like any other important appointment. Stick to it as much as possible. Whether it’s a few minutes each day or a more extended period each week, having a designated slot for me-time helps ensure it doesn’t get overlooked.

3. Identify Self-Care Activities and Explore your interests: Reflect on activities that bring you joy, relaxation,your inner lost self and fulfillment. It could be reading a book, taking a bubble bath, journaling, practicing mindfulness or yoga, pursuing a hobby, working out, dancing, cooking, playing sports, knitting, gardening or spending time in nature. It depends entirely from person to person. Choose activities that resonate with you; don’t think about others that what they would say or think. Discover activities that nurtures the child in you, replenish your hugry soul and that sparks your passion. Allow yourself the freedom to explore, learn new skills and embrace new experiences.

4. Establish Boundaries: Once you have decided that what you would gonna do, for how much time duration [estimated], what your child be doing in that time then do communicate your needs and time preferences and everything related to it, to :-

A.) Your family ( who can take care of your child if you can’t / or don’t want to involve your child with yourself),
B.) Househelps and staff (so that they can come and perform their duties in time),
C.) Friends (who shouldn’t be bothering/calling you for that period of time, or can join in case if you want them to be involved in that particular activity with you), and
D.)Support network (for ideas and guidance if needed).

Clearly express your limitations and ask for assistance when necessary. Setting boundaries will help prevent burnout and ensure others understand the importance of your self-care time.

5. Seek Support: Reach out to other caregivers who understand your journey. Join support groups, both online and offline, where you can share experiences, gain insights, and receive emotional support. Connecting with others who can relate to your challenges can be incredibly empowering.

6. Delegate and Accept Help: It’s okay to ask for help. Delegate tasks to other family members, friends, househelps or hired caregivers. Allow yourself to accept help when it’s offered, as it lightens your load and provides an opportunity for you to focus on self-care and other activities.

7. Practice self- love and self-compassion: Remember that you are doing the best you can in your role as a mother or caregiver. Be kind to yourself and let go of any guilt or self-judgment associated with taking time for yourself. Recognize that self-care is necessary for your own well-being and for being the best version of yourself for those you care for.

8. Be flexible and adapt: Life as a mother or caregiver can be unpredictable, and your self-care routine may need to be adjusted accordingly. Embrace flexibility and be willing to adapt your self-care practices to accommodate changing circumstances. Find creative ways to incorporate self-care into your day, even if it means breaking it into smaller, more frequent intervals.

Examples of Self-Care activities

1. Activities exploring your Personal Interests: Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. It could be pursuing a hobby, listening to music, painting, writing in a journal, or engaging in creative outlets.

2. Activities that connect with Nature/Nature immersion: Spending time outdoors, immerse yourself in nature, whether it’s a walk in the park, gardening, or simply sitting & enjoying the fresh air. Taking a small hike, visiting a park or garden, going for a picnic, or simply appreciating the beauty around you. Nature has a calming and rejuvenating effect that can help clear your mind and enhance your well-being.

3. Activities that prioritize Physical Health: Prioritize your physical health by incorporating activities that promote wellness. Take a yoga or fitness class, go for a walk or run, practice meditation or mindfulness, or indulge in a relaxing bubble bath. Nurturing your body is an integral part of self-care. Ensure you maintain a healthy lifestyle by eating well, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep. Remember, physical health is intertwined with mental and emotional well-being.

4. Social connection activities: Me-time doesn’t always mean being alone. Connect with friends or join communities that share your interests. Plan outings with friends, have a coffee date, join a book club, or engage in online communities where you can interact with like-minded individuals.

5. Activities to pamper yourself: Treat yourself to self-care and grooming activities that make you feel special and relaxed. Get a massage, book a spa day, have a DIY pampering session at home, or try out new skincare or beauty routines. Taking care of your physical appearance can boost your confidence and self-esteem.

6. Activities to Unplug and disconnect: In the age of constant connectivity, it’s crucial to disconnect from technology and embrace moments of solitude. Turn off your phone or put it on silent mode, disconnect from social media, do social media fasting, and allow yourself to sit idle, allow your brain to think about some happy memories.

So concluding the final part of my self-care blog series, incorporating self-care into the daily routine of mothers and caregivers is crucial for their overall well-being and ability to effectively care for others. Mothers and caregivers often prioritize the needs of others above their own. However, it’s essential to understand that self-care is not selfish but necessary for maintaining physical, mental, and emotional health.

Remember, incorporating self-care into your daily routine is an ongoing process. It requires commitment, self-awareness, and a willingness to prioritize your own well-being. By making self-care a priority, mothers and caregivers can better manage stress, maintain a healthier mindset, and ultimately provide the best care for their loved ones.

Hope you all liked my self-care blog series. So start with step 1 mentioned above, now!!

Do provide your valuable feedback through comments below and I will be happy to reply back.

Thank you for reading!!

Shilpi Mayank Awasthi
Founder SpecialSaathi

By Shilpi Mayank Awasthi


2 replies on “How mothers/caregivers can take out time for self-care activities?”

Useful and interesting write Shilpi. You have presented your ideas very well and summed them up for the reader to be convinced that she deserves a Me time no matter what. Thank you.

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